How to Stop Being Indecisive and Start Knowing What You Really Want

In this week’s video, I teach you a super simple practice that I’ve been incorporating into my life that has helped me stop feeling indecisive. Feeling indecision happens because we are stuck in our thinking-minds. And our minds can run wild! Coming up with all kinds of reasons to make decisions, but our minds never really know what’s best for us. Instead, our bodies have a natural intuition and wisdom that we ought to allow to guide us through each and every moment. Living from pleasure and aliveness in the moment instead of from the past will help you feel more clear every single day about what you desire. Living from this place, you will feel more fulfilled, more free, and more whole—I guarantee it. Take a look at my video. Enjoy!

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How To Increase Your Level of Worthiness to Get What You Desire

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In the last video, I talked about desire and how desire is the essence of who we are. When we embrace our desires, we become more whole, and we realize that we have always been free. There is a freedom in us that longs to express itself, and the journey we live is colored by our own willingness to embrace our authentic desires. To honor them, activate them, and follow them in each moment! 

But often we get stuck, because somewhere inside of us, we believe that we are not worthy of having what we want. We believe that we do not deserve to want. There’s something wrong about wanting. We are not enough. We do not have the right to want. 

And I’m here to tell you: It’s just not true. 

What narratives or stories do you unconsciously tell yourself about your desires? 

Some of mine are: 

I want too much… I’m not supposed to want this much… I can’t have what I want so it’s better to ignore what I want… Wanting things is selfish, and I’m not supposed to be selfish… It’s better to just be happy with what I have and learn to be present and grateful… Having what I want takes too much work, and I’m not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, or talented enough to get it done… Ultimately, I am not worthy… Expressing what I want is too much… Others will think I take up too much space or am too self-centered… If I have what I want, others will judge me… If I embrace my desires, I’ll be a slut or an egoic asshole… I’ll hurt other people… I’ll never have what I want… I just don’t deserve it.

So I’m going to teach you a simple and powerful practice to help you turn up your level of worthiness. 

Click here to watch my video! Enjoy!

The Tantric Path to Power and Bliss

The Tantric Path to Power and Bliss

In the nondual Tantric philosophy that I practice, all of our experience is sacred. All of our experience is made up of divine consciousness—the goddess herself (and you can call That whatever you want) is the source of all things, but she is also the life-force, the aliveness the lives in everything. 

The Divine, or enlightenment, or true peace and happiness, in most traditions is thought to be something beyond. God or the Divine is out there in the outerspace, in heaven, and we are just little humans on earth, we are struggling, we are essentially powerless, and we need to control ourselves, we need to repent our shortcomings, we need to transcend all that we are so that we can return to our Creator. Because Godliness is what matters. This human life doesn’t really matter, but it’s more about a destination. About perfection. About attaining an idea. About reaching a goal or being perfect. There are so many rules about what is wrong and what is right. What is good and what is bad. 

But in Tantra, the path and perspective is much different. On the Tantric path, all is sacred.  This very life, this very moment, this body, this energy, this thought, this experience is divine. The idea is that we are incarnations of Spirit. We are embodiments, articulated into individuated bodies and into these unique lifetimes, who have come into this form in order to experience life. Spirit wanted to experience itself through us. Through our experience. 

We are already perfect and whole. AND free. We are free to choose to play in this reality! To create, to love, to celebrate, to taste the flavors of life. Our lives are opportunities to experience our capacity to create and experience what we want to. 

If you resonate with this philosophy, then you’re in the right place, and I’m so happy we found each other. But even if you’re not sure what this means or if you believe it, it doesn’t matter. What it all comes down to is this: 

We are here because of desire. The very essence of life is desire. Without desire, we would be nothing. It’s the reason we do everything. If we didn’t have desire, we wouldn’t move, we wouldn’t eat, we wouldn’t be in relationships, we wouldn’t have a society! What would we be doing? Nothing. 

Our breath is a perfect example of the inherent desire that lies at the root of our reality. We don’t choose to breathe in most moments, life simply breathes through us. I mean, seriously, where does our breath come from? Who is breathing us? What is it? It is the goddess. It is Life, it is the Goddess herself. It is Desire. It’s our sexuality. Our creativity. 

We all have desires. It’s what keeps us going. What is it that you truly desire? What brought you here? Why did you click this video? You wanted something. What was it? That is the life in you, wanting to experience itself through this reality. Wanting to expand and contract. To go out and go in. 

The truth is that you are totally free to move toward having your desires as soon as you realize that you hold the key to that gate.